Human Skills
Human Skills
Whether it’s the emotional cues spinning by in a meeting headed for disarray,
curiosity that could turn a business-as-usual day into an internal spark reminding you
why you got into this darn job in the first place, or the art of making space for conflict
resolution that’s going to save us all, here are ten ways to salvage our better selves
and keep us from mutating into workplace monsters.
1. Empathy Mindset
Empathy gives us the ability to put ourselves in other people’s shoes so we can see
and feel from their perspective. It is a mindset and a comprehensive approach to
being – in the workplace and in life.
2. Emotional Intelligence
Think about these questions: What types of behaviors drive you crazy? Where does
your anxiety show up? What do you do when you don’t feel heard? How do your
resentments show up in interactions with others?
3. Effective Communication
What gets in the way of good communication? Frustration, lack of trust, stress, and
avoiding problems, which all add up to endless hours wasted. It’s important to start
from a place of active listening, and consider the following principles.
Intention: Know what you want to say and be clear about your objective.
None of us are mind readers. 90% of communication is non-verbal so make
sure the words you are using accurately convey the point you want to make,
and that you’ve dealt with your feelings before speaking.
Organization: Take the time to organize your thoughts and deliver them in a
straightforward way.
Framing: The courage to say what’s really on your mind is important, but
remember that “I think, I feel” is much more effective than starting with “you,”
which puts people on the defensive.
Affirmation: Do people understand what you are saying? Asking if information
makes sense may reveal a potential problem.
4. A Growth Mindset
So much of what we do is driven by fear, even in the workplace. This fear mindset
promotes a culture of anti-change, even in “innovative” companies. Allowing for
calculated risk-taking is essential for new product development and innovative
solutions. Rather than stigmatizing failure, a growth mindset embraces it as a
necessary part of progress. As Stanford University Professor of Psychology Carol
Dweck points out, proactively finding positive outcomes despite any challenges helps
build resilience.
5. Curiosity + Instigation
Curiosity is a natural part of any creative cycle. It paves the way for “possibility
thinking,” rather than business as usual. Instigation is an invitation to challenge quick
fixes, lackluster solutions and mediocrity. Start by embracing discomfort and the
unknown, allow space for dissonant ideas, diverging opinions, and seemingly
improbable outcomes. Challenging rigid ways of thinking and working enables new
ideas to form. Allow yourself to experience moments of awe and wonder, and bring
that practice to your work. Great ideas often arise when the mind is still and at ease.
People often jump into the execution phase right after discovery. The missing step,
strategic analysis, ensures the right questions are asked before a team moves into
problem solving. Strategic analysis helps to identify complex problems by providing a
top-level view into the interconnected web of what can often seem like isolated
issues. Analytical thinking enables people to suspend emotional decision making,
and instead look logically at evidence-based research and tests. As part of the
analytic process, one looks at everything from cause and effect to pro versus con to
cost benefit analysis. It’s a mistake in any product development process that strategic
analysis and analytical thinking rest on the shoulders of just one person. The most
successful project requires that solutions are sourced from a multidisciplinary team.
Complex problem solving is most effective when members of a team look at a project
brief with the eyes of a strategist. Long before solutions are offered and significant
time is spent, make sure to identify the real problem before jumping into solutions. In
order to get into problem-solving mode, you need to understand the true problem at
hand, identify challenges in the way, resist simple solutions, identify constraints and
pathways to feasibility, and, above all, make sure you’re open to experimentation.
8. Conflict Resolution
It’s inevitable that conflict arises in a team at some point or another. It arises most
frequently when roles aren’t clearly defined, there’s been a breakdown in
communication, when assumptions are made, and when workflows and processes
are poorly designed. Most of us have little to no training with expressing negative
emotions: frustration, hurt, outrage. Our default reaction is to avoid discomfort,
pretend nothing is wrong, or unconsciously become passive aggressive. Allowing
conflict to fester can be hugely detrimental to morale and productivity. Among the
most effective skills to learn in order to resolve conflict are mastering deep
listening, mediation and facilitation. Giving people the benefit of the doubt and
leading with curiosity are also powerful tools.
Given the future of work and the growing gig economy, more and more professionals
will be forced to become more entrepreneurial. Part of what makes an entrepreneur
successful is the ability to pitch and sell their services which is where negotiation and
persuasion will fit in – not only for freelancers, but also for in-house employees.
10. Leadership
A great leader recognizes that trust, transparency, inclusivity, and respect are
essential pillars upon which a vibrant company culture is built. They understand that
it’s not enough to build culture, it needs to be protected and maintained. A great
leader also needs to make difficult decisions and hold everyone, including
themselves, accountable.